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“No one is crazy. They just have different values and information than you. If you had their life experience, you’d probably think the same. The sooner you embrace this, the sooner you can empathize with people you disagree with instead of pretending you’re superior.” -- my favorite thought of these thirty. This may very well be the secret of life, in my book. Thank you for putting this together, it’s very inspiring. It’s interesting how people who think with their head inevitably go back to a few basic principles that you can only appreciate as you age, like slowing down, taking the time, doing one thing at a time, giving your attention to the one in front of you, listening. I also like your view on physical books, vinyls, etc. although I interpret minimalism more as a state of mind to try and do the same with less. Wonderful post, Nat.

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WOW. Lots of wisdom here. I’ll be coming back to this post. Thanks for sharing your insights.

I love the point about time to grow/enjoy a family. I took a risk with that one--my husband and I got married at 19 and we had five kids by age 28--but I’m 30 now and I think it’s safe to say I’m really grateful for that timing. I feel like I have my whole life ahead of me to follow my career dreams...along with the camaraderie of five incredible people I get to pour into (and learn from) every day.

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Great lessons here. Especially love embracing the many things you won't do. It takes knowing who you are to get there. And rejecting the goals of society around you. But once you do there's nothing more freeing than saying actually that isn't for me.

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*Host more events.*

I went hard into this kinda on accident. Moved to SF, and started asking people "How do you make friends around here?"... Nobody had a great answer.

So I just started hosting people. This single thing has probably had the biggest impact on my quality of life, and depth of relationships, compared to anything else I do.

Couldn't recommend it highly enough, and its incredibly easy to do.

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LOVE this! Thank you.

So many great ideas. Would you mind if I recommended you in my newsletter?

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Mar 14, 2023Liked by Nat Eliason

So damn good

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Mar 14, 2023Liked by Nat Eliason

Hi, Thanks for the amazing lessons.

All of the lessons were wonderful in its own ways.

I have a question on one of the lesson where you say - Don’t open a café. Could you please throw some light upon it. And why do you feel so?

Because this is what I would love to do in the near future.

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Mar 14, 2023·edited Mar 14, 2023Liked by Nat Eliason

"Host more events. Everyone wants to do more social stuff, but no one wants to organize it. Organize it. It’s not that much work, you’ll be much happier, and you’ll make more friends".

I very much agree with this Nat. 12 years ago I started a monthly live music night, that is still going strong as I write, and I have made so many friends because of it and, hopefully, made a fair amount of people, including myself, happier. It was something I had no real experience of but if you totally throw yourself into something then it usually works out.

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Ah this was probably one of best "x number of lessons" list that I've read! Agree with so many of them but you said it better than I could've.

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Love the pic so much...great reflections!

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Mar 14, 2023Liked by Nat Eliason

I loved reading this. Fantastic advise.

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Apr 7, 2023·edited May 20, 2023

Can you explain what are “Standing Events” and how you organize them?

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Whoa! That was refreshing and enlightening!! Superthanks

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much wisdom, thank u

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For articles like this I'm a paid subscriber. Happy birthday!

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"You do your best work when you’re not working. Your brain needs downtime to connect the dots like your body needs rest to strengthen itself for the next workout. If you’re always working, always trying to download information, always trying to be productive, you’re stifling your best insights from bubbling up. "

I like this one. Any books you know that elaborate on this? Cal Newport's Deep Work or?

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